4 Tips to Make Online Dating Fun (yes, FUN!)

By Amanda McPherson, Life Coach

1. Don’t Overdo It
Online dating can result in an abnormal amount of dating activity. The emotions of messaging people, getting your hopes up and then having disappointments can be exhausting. Make sure that you don’t let online dating hijack your life! Stick to your self-care activities, enjoy time with your friends, keep doing the things that fill you up and make you feel good about yourself. Remember, there will always be more people to date in the future. No rush. Let online dating fit into your life, not take it over.

2. Focus On What You Can Control
Online dating can give us a false sense of control. Sure, we can do some filtering by location, age, and other traits. But at the end of the day, much of what happens is beyond our control. Relationship success is largely up to timing, chemistry, and a good dose of luck. Think about online dating in a new way: It’s a great avenue to meet someone cool--or maybe even do something cool. Tired of awkward coffee dates? Suggest an activity that will be fun regardless of the outcome- like a painting class or volunteering together. All you can control is YOU—your energy, your attitude, and your approach. Focus on that and the magic will happen!

3. Be Authentic
Just like other decisions you make, your online experience should align with your values. Choose a platform that best aligns with what you care most about and your personality. And, be as honest as possible when you create your profile. Don’t pretend to love the outdoors if you really prefer the comforts of air conditioning and a couch. Many people get frustrated with online dating because they are going out on countless “dead end” dates. While this is a somewhat inevitable part of dating, you will do yourself a favor if you don’t hold back about who you are and what is important to you. The more authentic you are, the more likely you are to meet someone right for you. Make your profile unapologetically you and don’t try to be the lid for every pot!

4. Create a Life You Love
The absolute most important thing you can do when it comes to success in dating (and just in general!) is to genuinely love your life. If you are just sort of “treading water” in your life—waiting for someone to come along to “complete you”—you are setting yourself up for frustration and disappointment. It is up to YOU to create fulfillment and purpose in your life. Hate your job? Well, you need to figure out a plan to change that. Neglecting yourself mentally, physically or spiritually? Make time to focus on these things. Create a life that makes you so happy that you almost don’t even notice you’re single.

Mike Scheid